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Adopted Child Syndrome (ACS)
Love, acceptance, and empathy can help heal the emotional wounds associated with adoption.
Adopted child syndrome (ACS) is a term coined by some experts to describe the psychological and emotional issues adopted children experience. If the condition is not addressed on time, it may lead to other disorders, such as developmental delays, drug abuse, or attachment issues.
Therefore, parents should watch the physical and behavioral signs that indicate an ACS and try to find out the cause behind it. Through the integration of love, support, and affection, adopted children may be able to overcome these emotions..
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What Is Adopted Child Syndrome?
Adopted child syndrome is usually used to describe a condition that is a result of various psychological and emotional hardships an adopted child undergoes. It is associated with characteristics such as attachment disorders and deviant behavior to the likes of lying, stealing, inability to accept authority, and violence.
Though ACS is not a formal diagnosis, there are research works that talk about its effects.
Social worker Jean Paton, who was herself an adoptee, was the first to study ACS in 1953.
However, the term was only officially coined by David Kirschner in 1978 in his paper -Son of Sam.
At times, children cannot be expressive enough to share their trauma with their foster parents thus it is important for the parents to look out for any behavioral issues.
According to a study, adopted children are more likely to contract mental health problems than other children.
Some of the common symptoms of adopted child syndrome are:
- Low self-esteem
- Depression
- Identity crisis
- Anxiety
- Feelings of grief and rejection
Some of the common comorbid disorders are:
- Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD.
- Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
- Conduct disorder.
- Major depressive disorder.
- Separation anxiety disorder.
Causes Of Adopted Child Syndrome
Apple Inc’s founder the late Steve Jobs was an adopted child. Though highly successful in life, he has often referred to “unresolved pain” of rejection and abandonment due to adoption.
Here is a deep insight into the various emotional reactions an adopted child with ACS are prone to.
1. FEELING OF ANXIETY AND LOSS:
Adopted children develop a feeling of being abandoned by their mother.
In the book Being adopted: The lifelong search for self, published in 1992, researchers David M Brodzinsky, Marshall D Schechter, and Robin Marantz Henig say that children, if adopted within six months of their birth, would grow similar to a natural child.
However, psychotherapist Nancy Verrier in her book The Primal Wound in 1993 says that a child develops a bond with its mother from the womb itself.
“Bonding doesn’t begin at birth but is a continuum of physiological, psychological, and spiritual events which begin in utero and continue throughout the postnatal bonding period.
“When this natural evolution is interrupted by a postnatal separation from the biological mother, the resultant experience of abandonment and loss is indelibly imprinted upon the unconscious minds of these children, causing that which I call the ‘primal wound’.”
According to adoption specialists, adoptees frequently experience anxiety due to being abandoned by their birth parents, feeling like second-class citizens, and believing they are unworthy of sharing happy experiences in their live.
The orphaned and abandoned children carry the trauma of separation from their biological parents. They may not remember the trauma but can feel it subconsciously. There could be an innate fear that their adopted family would leave them one day adding to their feeling of insecurity.
SOLUTION :Properly guided counseling or therapy may help in this case.
2. Secrecy of parents:existential problems
The adopted family might not tell the adoptees the details about their natural parents. The very fact that they have been adopted could be hidden if the adoption took place early in a child’s life. However, once they come to know about it, the children might want to know more about their original family.
Sometimes, even the adoption agencies would not have details about the biological parents of adoptees, and this lack of information could make the person face many existential problems like feeling alienated, misunderstood and feeling like they don’t belong.
3.ETHNICTY :IDENTITY ISSUES IN THE TEENAGE
If the adopted family is from a different origin than the adoptee, the child could find it difficult to adjust. Their color, race, practices may all be different. For instance, if an American family adopts an Asian origin child, the cultural differences would be so profound that the adoptee may grow up with identity issues which are especially pertinent within the teenage phase when the identity is being formed.
4. Genetic differences:alienation and issues with adjustment
As they grow up, the adopted children observe that their physical features, preferences, and intellectual abilities are different from those of the adopted family. This could cause alienation and lead to issues with adjustment as there is no one who resembles them physically or psychologically, exacerbating the symptoms of the syndrome.
5.Eagerness to know about their original family : A feeling of guilt:
As the adoptee ages, they may feel guilty of not giving enough to their adopted family. They may be overburdened by a sense of gratitude. Added to this, their eagerness to know about their original family may make them think that they are doing injustice to the family that has adopted them.
6. The burden of being the ‘chosen one’:developing negative thoughts.
The adoption agency and the people around might tell the adoptee that they are the ‘chosen one’ by the family, with an intention to make them forget about their past and merge into the new setup. It could also make the adoptee come out of the feeling of being abandoned.
However, over compensating could make them feel that the family is being charitable by adopting them, thus developing negative thoughts.
Effects Of Adopted Child Syndrome
If adopted early in their life, children grow up similar to other kids. In the US, nearly 120,000 children are adopted every year. There are currently more than 2.6 million adopted individuals in the country. Most of them lead a normal life without any psychological issues.
However, a few children might have to face the effects of ACS.
1. Developmental delays:
Adopted children could reach physical and emotional development milestones late. They may not be able to do things that kids of their age usually do, or they may think and behave younger than their age. Developmental delays could manifest in the form of:
1.Eagerness to grab attention or rewards.
2.Inability to socialize.
3.Difficulty in learning motor skills
1.1.Cognitive delay: Cognitive delay may affect the intellectual function of children, causing a decline in their ability to think, learn, and solve problems. A learning disability may result from cognitive delays, leading to difficulties in comprehension and understanding, which become evident when children start going to school or even earlier.
Signs of cognitive delay-
Delay in sitting, crawling, or walking
Speech delays
Inability to pay attention for long
Inability to solve simple problems
Absence of logical thinking or completing simple tasks
Memory problems
Inability to think logically and understand social rules
Infantile behavior
Treatment for cognitive delay
-Play therapy (teaching skills through play)
-Occupational therapy
-Speech therapy
-Special attention in school, which may also include an individualized education plan
1.2. Motor delay: Children with difficulty in fine and gross motor skills find it difficult to coordinate large muscles (arms and legs) and small muscles (hands)
1.3. Socioemotional delay: Socioemotional delay affects the social and emotional skills of children, making it difficult for them to interact with others and communicate their thoughts and feelings.
MANAGEMENT PLAN
Attachment therapy (counseling children, parents, and caregivers to build attachment)
Play therapy
Behavioral therapy
Skill-oriented therapy (focusing on developing skills)
1.4. Speech and language delay: Oral motor problems, such as weak muscles of the mouth
Problems with tongue and jaw movement, leading to speech production disorder.Brain damage (cerebral palsy),Hearing loss,Genetic disorders,Environmental factors such as lack of stimulation,Being a twin,Living in a bilingual home (children find it difficult to interpret two languages simultaneously)
Signs of speech and language delay
Reduced vocabulary/Delay in initial speech, such as saying simple words “papa” and “mama.”
Inability to form age-appropriate sentences/Doesn’t talk/Delay in expressing thoughts
Treatment of speech and language delay :Increased communication with the child/
Reading to the child/Hearing test/Getting ear infections treated/Speech therapy
Special attention in school.
1.5 Adaptive delay: Children with adaptive developmental delay find it difficult to learn age-appropriate life skills (self-help skills). As a result, it becomes challenging for them to live independent life
Signs of adaptive delay :Inability to manage daily activities, such as feeding, dressing, or brushing teeth/Speech and language difficulties/Problems with reasoning and problem solving
/Lacking organizational skills, such as following a routine or completing assignments
2. Eating disorders
Their pre-adoption life makes children anxious eaters. They may have grown up under circumstances where there was a scarcity of food . This could lead to:Overeating/
Under-consumption due to problems in eating certain foods such as solids/Hoarding of food
/Stealing food
3. Attachment issues and reactive attachment disorder
withdraw from others / avoid eye contact/ be uninterested in playing/ and be indifferent to affection among others / or not having any boundaries and attached to people inappropriately.
4. Alcohol and drug abuse
5.Inclination towards crime
How To Deal With Developmental Delay In Children?
Apart from the therapies, some other strategies used to address developmental delay are :
1.Breaking down essential skills into small steps and giving clear instructions to children
2.Repeating instructions and giving adequate time to complete the task
3.Rewarding for accomplishments
4.Teaching interpersonal skills and imparting social skills training
5.Using visual instructions, such as pictures, posters, and videos
6.Using gestures
7.Integrating learning with fun
8.Providing supportive environment
9.Taking the help of parents to understand children
10.Observing children understand unexpressed signs and signals
How To MANAGE Adopted Child Syndrome?
Attachment psychologist Dan Hughes has come up with the acronym PLACE, which stands for being playful, loving, accepting, curious, and empathic to your adopted kid.
Playful: Be playful with the child as this would help them realize their self-worth and relax. Fill in your free-time with some games or fun activities with the kid.Playfulness also includes a simple ruffling of their hair, winking at them, cracking a joke, or smiling at them. This can reassure the child about your love.
Loving: You should be the first person to bring love into the relationship and your adopted child will eventually follow you. Understand that they are too young and frightened to adjust to the environment instantly.Hold their hand, hug them, have a sweet talk, and show them that you care for them. Give them time to understand you and build faith in you.
Accepting: Accept the child the way they are. That is the first step to mold them in the way you want.Share your expectations gradually, after they settle down in your family.
Curious: When your child does something unacceptable, do not admonish them immediately. Instead, be curious to know why they did that. Let them know your curiosity by asking questions aloud. It will help them in understanding their mistake, and give them the confidence to talk to you about it.
Empathetic: Empathize with your child. If they are finding it difficult to read or write, tell them that you understand their difficulty. Help them learn the lessons, instead of getting furious or disappointed with them. But empathy needs to be genuine and not flippant.
2. Permanency : Your child may not like to leave you or may get cranky if you are away even for a short time, as they might be afraid of losing you.It is for you to build that sense of permanency in them. Make them understand that you are with them permanently even if you are away for a few hours or days. These relate back to their attachment and abandonment issues.
3. Constancy:
Constancy is related to permanency as it gives children stability and resilience. It makes them realize that your angry reaction to a particular incident is because of their misbehavior but not because you hate them. Consistency is key when dealing with a child.
Develop constancy by being pleasant even while reprimanding them. They will understand that you are not happy with them.
If they disappoint you, talk to them openly without hurting their feelings. Tell them what your expectation was and why it was not met.
4.Reduce stress and anxiety:
HOLD TIGHTLY / EMBRACE / WHISPER IN EARS THAT YOU LOVE HIM
Be calm and make yourself available to them to reduce their levels of anxiety, if any. Make things predictable for them so they know what to expect .If they do something wrong, let them know the consequences immediately, without making them wait anxiously for the ‘punishment’.Identify their stress areas and mitigate them.
rocking back and forth ; is referred to as ‘orphanage syndrome.’ Many children in orphanages do this when they are hurt or afraid. Since they don’t have a mommy or daddy to comfort them, they have learned how to soothe themselves
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5.Develop self-esteem :
Self-esteem can be low in adopted children. Develop self-esteem by making them feel important. Appreciate their new milestones, and applaud them for their achievements. Build them up, make them feel confident.
6. Discipline positively:
Avoid giving commands to the child, such as, “I want you to do this,” “You have to stop being like that,” and so on. Instead, give him choices of ‘this or that’ and let him choose. This works well for both your child and you.
Replace punishments with logical consequences, so that he understands that doing ‘this’ will lead to ‘that’. For example, he will know that if he spills milk, he will end up cleaning it.
Keep your bouts of anger short, for around 60 seconds, and have calmer conversations for a longer time.
7.Encourage socializing but supervise:
Help your child to socialize with their classmates and neighbors. Take them to a park and let them play with other children. However, ensure that they are not being bullied by other children or vice versa. Explain to them the ways to be amicable yet assertive.
1. Why do some parents hide the adoption truth from their children?
Some parents might want to keep the adoption as a secret to:Protect the child from the pain of separation./Wait until the kid is mature enough to understand the situation..The adoptive parents may fear that the children might leave them once they know about their biological parents./The biological parents did not want to reveal their identity.
However, the trend is changing as more parents are looking for an open adoption.
2. Are adopted children violent towards their parents?
A child can turn violent irrespective of the parents being adopted or biological. More than the type of parents (adopted or otherwise), it is the environment at home and the background of the parents that might have an influence on the behavior of the child.
3. How soon can an adopted child accept their new parents and family?
This differs with each family. It is the adopted parent’s responsibility to make the kids feel at home. Create a reassuring atmosphere for them to accept the changes in the shortest possible time.
4. How do I support a child with reactive attachment disorder (RAD)?
As the child with RAD is under stress, you need to take care not to show your frustration on them. Here are a few tips to parent a child with RAD:
Do not lose your patience, no matter how annoying the situation could be.
Create a fun environment at home, and develop a sense of humor in the child.
Have realistic expectations from the child, and celebrate their successes.
Stay positive even if the child ignores your overtures. Keep trying and they would recognize your efforts.Seek help from your family and friends.
5. Are adoptees narcissists?
A small study has found that adoptees are not likely to develop narcissism . However, extensive research is required.
6. Should you tell a child they are adopted?
Yes, you should tell your child if they are adopted when they are young. So avoid risking the chance of them finding out from someone else
IMPORTANT IDEAS
Adopted Child Syndrome refers to emotional and psychological difficulties experienced by some adopted children.
Symptoms of this syndrome may include anxiety, depression, and a sense of rejection.
Emotional reactions such as abandonment, secrecy, differences in ethnicity, genetic differences, and guilt are commonly observed in adopted children with this syndrome.
Although most adopted children live normal lives, some may face developmental delays, attachment issues, substance abuse, and a higher risk of criminal behavior.
Adopted child syndrome can be overcome through empathy, understanding, unconditional love, and the establishment of a sense of permanency.
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Adopted Child Syndrome by Dr. Tracie O'Keefe DCH, BHSc, ND
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